Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Your Name
When we are born we are given a name. This has usually been thought over long and carefully chosen to be yours. But what if you were not given a name until you were much older. What name would be chosen for you? Would it have to with your talents, how you've lived your life, or your accomplishments? I think this a very interesting thing to think about. Will it change the way you live your life, use your talents, or what your strive to accomplish? Just one of those things to make you go ?
Monday, May 4, 2009
Mirrors
What do you see when you look in a mirror? Mirrors offer us an image. Is this a true image of you? No it's distorted. If nothing else it's a reverse image. We need to be more accepting of who we are. And not just believe the image we see. Do you accept yourself? It is what is is...Just love it.
Never close your lips where you've opened your heart. We need to be willing to tell people how we feel about ourselves as well as about them. No one what you need if you don't tell them. Teach others how you want to be treated. Communicate your expectations.
It's OK to ask for help. If you don't you are not using all of your strength. Focus on your accomplishments. When you ask how are you different there is a short list. When you ask how you are alike the list is longer.
Another mirror analogy: Think about a rear view mirror. What do you see when you look in it? History. In fact you can drive for a short distance just looking in the mirror. But only until there is a change in the road ahead. Inside the car is the present. If you focus on just the present you are not aware of what is going on outside the car. again you could end up in trouble. The windshield represents the future. When we drive we focus most of our time on the future. So when someone asks you who are you you might think to say...I'm the person I will still become.
Never close your lips where you've opened your heart. We need to be willing to tell people how we feel about ourselves as well as about them. No one what you need if you don't tell them. Teach others how you want to be treated. Communicate your expectations.
It's OK to ask for help. If you don't you are not using all of your strength. Focus on your accomplishments. When you ask how are you different there is a short list. When you ask how you are alike the list is longer.
Another mirror analogy: Think about a rear view mirror. What do you see when you look in it? History. In fact you can drive for a short distance just looking in the mirror. But only until there is a change in the road ahead. Inside the car is the present. If you focus on just the present you are not aware of what is going on outside the car. again you could end up in trouble. The windshield represents the future. When we drive we focus most of our time on the future. So when someone asks you who are you you might think to say...I'm the person I will still become.
Friday, May 1, 2009
Change
Action=Knowledge x Motivation
Stages of change:
1. Per Contemplation: Denial or It's everyone elses fault
2. Contemplation: It's the way things are
3. Pre Preparation: The Balance is tipped or You start to consider other options
4. Action: You start to take steps
5. Maintenance: It takes root
Do you have the skills, the resources, the confidence, the vision, the resistance? If not find people in your life to assist you that have these qualities and abilities.
You can't make change happen. You don't have to come up with all the answers (you may not have the best answers). Don't wrestle collaborate.
When assisting others take into consideration the spirit of why you want to help, express empathy, develop discrepancy, and know your roll and how to deal with resistance.
Stages of change:
1. Per Contemplation: Denial or It's everyone elses fault
2. Contemplation: It's the way things are
3. Pre Preparation: The Balance is tipped or You start to consider other options
4. Action: You start to take steps
5. Maintenance: It takes root
Do you have the skills, the resources, the confidence, the vision, the resistance? If not find people in your life to assist you that have these qualities and abilities.
You can't make change happen. You don't have to come up with all the answers (you may not have the best answers). Don't wrestle collaborate.
When assisting others take into consideration the spirit of why you want to help, express empathy, develop discrepancy, and know your roll and how to deal with resistance.
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